Preparing for the Civil Services Examination is a journey that demands immense focus, discipline, and time. Aspirants often find themselves making significant sacrifices cutting down on social activities, hobbies, and even time with family and friends in order to stay committed to their goals. While this kind of dedication is admirable, it’s important to recognize the thin line between focused solitude and harmful isolation.
In the process of planning, attending coaching, studying, revising, and testing themselves regularly, many aspirants unintentionally disconnect from their support systems. This can lead to emotional exhaustion, burnout, and a deep sense of loneliness over time.
Social isolation, when done mindfully, can help increase focus. However, completely cutting off from everyone is neither healthy nor sustainable. It’s essential to be selective, not absent. Surround yourself with people who:
- Respect your personal boundaries
- Support your aspirations rather than distract you from them
- Encourage and uplift you in moments of doubt
- Do not manipulate or place unrealistic expectations on your time and energy.
One doesn’t need to socialize daily, but occasional interaction with the right people can be emotionally nourishing. A short walk, a genuine conversation, or a coffee break with someone who understands your journey can work wonders for your mental well-being.
It’s also helpful to maintain hobbies in moderation, such as journaling, sketching, music, or light exercise. These small breaks from your academic routine can prevent monotony and refresh your mind. You’ll return to your studies with renewed energy and clarity.
If feelings of loneliness persist, don’t hesitate to seek help. Talking to a mentor, a counsellor, or even joining a study circle can make a big difference.
In the long run, remember that UPSC/APSC preparation is not just about knowledge it’s also about emotional resilience. Choosing the right company, staying connected with positive influences, and taking care of your mental health are all part of the preparation process.
Success doesn’t require you to be alone — it requires you to be balanced.
